Why Search Online for Love?

I’ll start with my thoughts about woman in our society today.

In no way am I disrespecting nor discrediting North American woman! This is just the perspective of one man with old school values in a modern world!

It seems the average North American woman’s values ,have changed considerably over the past couple decades. It used to be that love and family were their top priority! These days it seems career, money, independence, material possessions and life style, (not necessarily in that order) , have taken a place higher on a lady’s list than love or family!

I am not saying all woman here are like this! Many are not!!! But there are a lot of good men on this continent,thus the competition is very high for these ladies attentions! That's where the perception ; "all the good ones are taken" arises.

In turn; this has these particular ladies a little spoiled! They are now very selective, less willing to accept an average man! They now expect a close to perfect man, both in character and appearance. Lately wealth and possessions have been added to this list also! So an average man has the odds against him, of capturing the heart and attention of one of these few woman!

Even if one does capture the heart of one of these special ladies, The odds of keeping it are also stacked against him! The availability of good men is endless to these ladies! Thus their tolerance, to any glitch in the relationship, is very low! Thus this helps fuel the high divorce,split up rates and infidelity rates.

Another result of the way society here today is; an average lady( most men also) no longer takes as good care of their physical appearance as in the past! Poor eating habits, lack of culinary skills, fast paced life style and lack of physical activity all contribute to an ever increasing obesity level.

A trip to your local supermarket will clearly show how life style and eating habits have changed! Very few actually know how to cook a proper and healthy meal any more! It’s a dying art! The frozen food and premade foods isles get bigger and the fresh foods and produce sections get smaller! The trip home passes or includes the line up at the fast food drive through! Thus our society gets fatter and lazier!

In turn it has created a vicious circle! a larger lady will have a hard time finding nice clothes that fit her,making it even harder for her to feel or look attractive! With clothes that don’t look good on her, now her desire to wear a little makeup and do her hair nicely,may diminish also!

Another perspective of this phenomena; is that many woman don’t bother or are not willing to spend the extra time to look more feminine or stay in shape. They don’t really need to also! We as average men have mostly learned to accept this “casual look” in the woman here!

In most cases the casual look is actually preferred by a man these days! When his lady dresses casual, does not wear make up and a fancy hair style, she is less likely to be approached by many other men! A pretty and dolled up lady, with an overly jealous man,can be a disastrous combination!

It is also becoming more common, that an average looking and casual dressing lady, will most likely have a more pleasant personality and less snobbish character! Again society has dictated this! The prettier ladies get more attention, no matter what their personality is like. An average looking lady has spent her life getting attention, more with her personality. Thus it seems the prettier the lady,the weaker her personal skills!

I thought maybe it was just the woman of my area that made me feel this way. So this was when I chose to try internet meeting and meet woman from different areas. After a fast education in internet dating and navigating through all the scams and some decieveing personalities, I realized it was not just woman of my area ,but north American woman in general! My hopes of one day meeting my perfect soulmate were lessening!

Maybe I have been to fussy and this may be why I haven't married yet!! I just don't like the idea of haveing to settle ! I remember in my youth ,how I loved and respected the charactoristics of all my aunts and older lady cousins! Love for their man and family came first!! Any thing else was secondary! I began to wonder if there were still woman on this earth that felt this way?

As I am of slavic (Ukrainian) heritage, I thought maybe these charactoristics may still be partially preserved in eastern Europe. Thus I continued my search there.

To my delight ,I did soon realize that woman of Eastern Europe ,did still possess much of the charactoristics I was wishing for in a lady! I will share my thoughts and discoveries about these ladies in my next post!