Advantages Of Paid Dateing Sites

So in this post I'll explain some of the advantages of joining a paid date site.

For starters very few scammers and spammers are willing to pay to be on these sites. Most paid sites screen thier members and require certain personal information of its members. Scammers and spammers aren't often willing to devulge this information! Most paid sites will also cancel an account of any one that scams or spams. Again; do your home work on any site you choose to join. If you join a paid site, check that it protects your personal information also! Some paid sites do not have good identity protection.

Another advantage to paid sites; is that they usually have many more active members than the free sites.The people joining paid sites are generally more serious about finding a partner and willing to spend a little money to do so. They have a vested interest in obtaining results. They are also people that have probably tried the free sites and are tired of the scams,spams and lack of safe gaurds .

Anther good thing about the paid sites; You can pretty much gaurantee the person you talk to has a credit card or at least a bank account! Not many sites accept cash:) Plus that person is not so cheap that they refuse to pay for a date site!

I personally tried several free sites.I did meet a few ladies and go on a several dates. Some of the woman I met in live, must have used photos from several years ago! As when we met, I barely recognised them. Some times much heavier some times a lot older looking than their pics. I am not a superficial person. I probably would have liked any one of these ladies,despite their appearance. The fact that they had been dishonest in their profile, made me suspect of their charactor from the moment we met. Thus these dates could not end fast enough for me. I got fed up with free sites and started searching for a reputable paid site.

Some of the paid sites also offer live web cam.This is a very good way to see that the person you are talking with is real and actually the person you think they are. It is also nice to see the expression of that persons face when they get your IM. The sites that offer this feature are usually a little more money. But trust me! it is well worth the little extra!

Remember that free sites generaly attract people that expect something for nothing! They have nothing to loose! They are generally also people that have much higher expectations than they may truelly deserve.

Safe Internet Dating

So in this post I will try clarify how and where one can find and correspond safely with a Slavic lady online!

Any one that has tried meeting some one on line ,probably has a story or two to tell ,about either a scam ,scam attempt or deciept!

As most, I started out seeking my soul mate on a few of those wonderful free sites! As I did have success in meeting a few new ladies this way, I still encountered the issues I originally started with! I did not meet any near by ladies that possessed those old school standards I seek! And of the ones I did meet in live, most ,to be polite, embelished quite a bit about themselves. A few were out right decieptful! Using 10-15 year old photos,incorrect info in profiles, etc. The sites with live chat features did help one get a little better idea of the person.

The free sites are a feeding ground for scams and deciept though! There are no guarantees and little protection ,that you are actually corresponding with the person you think you are! It is desireable if you can get her to correspond via personal emails and im's. If they do meet you to correspond on your private im,insist on a live cam also! If they refuse to go on cam or say they don't have it available, be suspitious! If she can't afford it she should be willing to give a mailing address where you can send her the 20-30$cam off Ebay!!This will be much cheaper than the plane ticket you may get scammed out of ! Or the cam site she talks you into joining for free! Read the terms and conditions carefully guys!!! If a lady asks you to join a cam site to see her live, it aint gonna be free!!! The scammers and decietful ones have a lot of time as this is their proffession or objective! So if you don't mind wasting a lot of your time ,wadeing through scams and deciept to find your love, these are the sites for you! Not to mention a few awkward meetings with a lady that may have emellished on her profile . Hopefully you don't fall for the scam attempts also! Then the free site aint so free!

The moral of the story I guess is that ,more often than not,you get what you pay for! If you expect fast painfree results on a free site, I wish you a lot of luck!
Maybe also look at free sites another way. The people using them may also be broke or just cheap! Most people on these sites are also overly expectatious in there desires! The real and honest ones you may meet there, will probably have very many others seeking their attention! Thus you better be a little more than average in many ways to impress one!!

So with all that said and one decides to join a paid site! Do your home work before joining a site! Ask some friends if they know of a good site. Ask if they know of people that have had good success meeting their love there! If you don't find a friends advice then use this big internet to gain your info! Always seek an unbiased opinion! I am a person some what familiar with Internet marketing. So if you just Google it, be warned .Here's a few tips; Say you Google ' Joeblows date site scam" Odds are extremely good that you will read a few of the reviews on the first few pages displayed on Google. If you understand Google a little ,you will know that the first few pages of a search on Google , go to the highest bidder or best marketers! Thus the site you are investigating probably holds most of the adds on the first few pages of the search! Most scam reports are written by the very same people you are researching! It will become quite obvious as you read the reports and you see the site you are investigating, has wonderfull reviews and comes highly recomended! The best and most reliable info will come from articles and blogs.

As I have mentioned, I am some what familiar with Internet marketing and as you may have noticed there are some adds on my blog! The actual banner adds or links I post ,are ones I have placed here! The Google adds are random by Google! So yes I may earn a few cents if you click on one of the adds by Google and Yes! I may earn a few credits or a commission if you chose to join a site I have a banner or link for! I spend a lot of my time working on my blog and it is nice to earn a little from it also! I just hope my information is helpfull to those who read.

I plan to continue this blog indefinately. I have found my future wife, she is from Ukraine! She's that beautiful lady Anna I introduced at the top of the page! I hope I can help any one out there to also find the happiness I have found. I will use this blog to assist you with such things as cultural differences, language issues, what a man can expect when choosing a Slavic lady, What one can expect for expences when choosing a foriegn bride and the process of getting her here with you.

I didn't have a chance this post ,to explain the ways some of the paid sites make it safer than free sites. I will explain this in my next post.

Discovering Slavic Women

So in this post I will share a little about my discoveries and experiences with Slavic woman.

As I had mentioned in my previous post, I was pleasantly suprised to find that most Slavic woman ,still maintain a lot of the old school values that myself and many men seek. An average Slavic lady still holds relationships and family as their top priority! Yes they will appreciate material things also, but it is not their top priority! Their main goal is a strong marriage and family ,with a loving, reliable and supportive mate.

A Slavic woman also still believes the man is the head of the family. He should be the main bread winner and pillar of the family! She will be very happy to care for all the household duties for her family and man ,without complaint! She will also be very willing to get a job and work to help support her family! A man willing to help with household duties and cook once in a while, is a rare godsend to a Slavic lady! Lots of browny points available here guys!

A Slavic woman also still believes a lady should be an example of femininity! She will do her best to stay fit, dress stylishly,care for her hair, hygene,appearance and skin and display excellent manners.She will be very proud to look as beautiful as possible for her man. Regular compliments here, are great for more browny points guys!!! Trust me!! It won't be hard. Slavic women are among the most beautiful women in the world!

There is much misconception that the slavic women of eastern Europe , are desperate to get out of their country and come to America. This truelly is not the reality!!! They love their countries and would be just as happy if her man chose to move there with her. They are only desperate to find a loving man and form a strong family! They have learned of the qualities and values of North American men and wish these qualities in a mate!! They are willing to sacrifice living in their beloved home land in exchange for a happy marriage and family!

It is a strange phenominom in their countries! It is muchly opposite of North America. There are many more beautiful,well educated and strong moraled woman there than good men!! The majority of men there are considered very spoiled, generally lazy, drunkards and disloyal! It is said to be a 4-1 ratio of single ladies to desireable men ,in Slavic countries!

The odds of a Slavic woman finding a good man in her country,is very low! Keeping him is even lower odds! The women In these countries actually prefer a more mature man than themselves! They wish the emotional stability of a mature man! Thus they are very content with a more mature man, even if his physical appearance is not that of a 25 year old ! They are more attracted to the inner qualities of a man! I have actually offered to introduce some of the Slavic women I know, to young handsome men here ! They generally shy away and ask if I could introduce them to a more mature man.

A more mature man here will notice instantly , when first introduced to meeting Slavic ladies is; he will be approached by many ladies many years his junior! Most Slavic ladies believe that if they do not marry by the age of 30, they will never marry! Thus they are raised from youth to prepare for marriage and family at a young age.

There is one major cultural difference that most North American men may find difficult ! As most Slavic women are raised with strong morals and personal respect. An average Slavic lady will stay a virgin untill married! She is raised to save this for her husband, so getting lucky on a first date is very unlikely! They are not a promiscuous creature and sex is not a casual passtime before marriage to most of them!!

One thing of note I wish to mention also is; most Slavic woman are not well educated as to the marrital laws of North America ! In their countries a man can leave ones wife and family with no recourse! There is no child support,no alimony,no devision of assets after divorce. So most have little knowledge of our laws and are not seeking a man for his money!! Although stability and ability to support the family are still very important to her!

Most Slavic woman go to university and obtain degrees and BA's. Most are well educated in this way,most seem of very high intellect also.Not just a bunch of ditsy beauties! They go for higher educations, as they feel it will make them more desireable to a good man! Plus in the likely event they become husbandless there, at least she will be educated and capable of provideing for her family!

My next post I will try clarify how and where one can find and correspond safely with a Slavic lady online!

Why Search Online for Love?

I’ll start with my thoughts about woman in our society today.

In no way am I disrespecting nor discrediting North American woman! This is just the perspective of one man with old school values in a modern world!

It seems the average North American woman’s values ,have changed considerably over the past couple decades. It used to be that love and family were their top priority! These days it seems career, money, independence, material possessions and life style, (not necessarily in that order) , have taken a place higher on a lady’s list than love or family!

I am not saying all woman here are like this! Many are not!!! But there are a lot of good men on this continent,thus the competition is very high for these ladies attentions! That's where the perception ; "all the good ones are taken" arises.

In turn; this has these particular ladies a little spoiled! They are now very selective, less willing to accept an average man! They now expect a close to perfect man, both in character and appearance. Lately wealth and possessions have been added to this list also! So an average man has the odds against him, of capturing the heart and attention of one of these few woman!

Even if one does capture the heart of one of these special ladies, The odds of keeping it are also stacked against him! The availability of good men is endless to these ladies! Thus their tolerance, to any glitch in the relationship, is very low! Thus this helps fuel the high divorce,split up rates and infidelity rates.

Another result of the way society here today is; an average lady( most men also) no longer takes as good care of their physical appearance as in the past! Poor eating habits, lack of culinary skills, fast paced life style and lack of physical activity all contribute to an ever increasing obesity level.

A trip to your local supermarket will clearly show how life style and eating habits have changed! Very few actually know how to cook a proper and healthy meal any more! It’s a dying art! The frozen food and premade foods isles get bigger and the fresh foods and produce sections get smaller! The trip home passes or includes the line up at the fast food drive through! Thus our society gets fatter and lazier!

In turn it has created a vicious circle! a larger lady will have a hard time finding nice clothes that fit her,making it even harder for her to feel or look attractive! With clothes that don’t look good on her, now her desire to wear a little makeup and do her hair nicely,may diminish also!

Another perspective of this phenomena; is that many woman don’t bother or are not willing to spend the extra time to look more feminine or stay in shape. They don’t really need to also! We as average men have mostly learned to accept this “casual look” in the woman here!

In most cases the casual look is actually preferred by a man these days! When his lady dresses casual, does not wear make up and a fancy hair style, she is less likely to be approached by many other men! A pretty and dolled up lady, with an overly jealous man,can be a disastrous combination!

It is also becoming more common, that an average looking and casual dressing lady, will most likely have a more pleasant personality and less snobbish character! Again society has dictated this! The prettier ladies get more attention, no matter what their personality is like. An average looking lady has spent her life getting attention, more with her personality. Thus it seems the prettier the lady,the weaker her personal skills!

I thought maybe it was just the woman of my area that made me feel this way. So this was when I chose to try internet meeting and meet woman from different areas. After a fast education in internet dating and navigating through all the scams and some decieveing personalities, I realized it was not just woman of my area ,but north American woman in general! My hopes of one day meeting my perfect soulmate were lessening!

Maybe I have been to fussy and this may be why I haven't married yet!! I just don't like the idea of haveing to settle ! I remember in my youth ,how I loved and respected the charactoristics of all my aunts and older lady cousins! Love for their man and family came first!! Any thing else was secondary! I began to wonder if there were still woman on this earth that felt this way?

As I am of slavic (Ukrainian) heritage, I thought maybe these charactoristics may still be partially preserved in eastern Europe. Thus I continued my search there.

To my delight ,I did soon realize that woman of Eastern Europe ,did still possess much of the charactoristics I was wishing for in a lady! I will share my thoughts and discoveries about these ladies in my next post!